Happy St. Valentine’s Day, everyone!
Valentine’s Day is one of my favorite holidays. I’ve liked it since elementary school, when you got to have a class party and everybody gave you a valentine whether they liked you or not. If you were lucky, the valentine came with candy.
Not all my Valentine’s Days have been happy, either. I’ve been divorced twice – both times in February – once before Valentine’s Day, and once afterwards. The pre-Valentine’s Day divorce option is better as it is much easier to kick back with a girlfriend and watch a Jane Austen movie knowing it’s finally over.
I still like Valentine’s Day because it’s all about LOVE.
In Mexico they call this the Day of Love and Friendship. I like that because it reminds you that love is not just romantic love. When you’re an adult, they try to tell you that Valentine’s Day is all about romance because they want to sell you cards, flowers and expensive gifts. A lot of people feel sad on Valentine’s Day because they think they are missing out on something. But there is no need to be fixated on one form of love when there are so many different kinds to celebrate.
People also think love is a lot of things it couldn’t possibly be. Love is patient and kind. It’s not drama or control or hurtful behavior. If the things you love don’t love you back, you can find other things. And if being in love feels crazy, it might just be obsession – or hormones. You’ll get better.
And another point to consider. The whole idea that we have ONE special SOUL MATE without whom we are unfulfilled is a story they made up in Hollywood. It makes for a compelling movie script, but in real life it causes pain because it isn’t true. Your soul is bigger than you can imagine and there are many, many people, animals and places to love.
You can’t miss out on love – really. So open your heart wide!
Oh – and feel free to have extra chocolate. It’s Valentine’s Day!